Have you ever found yourself saying:

«The same old story?»

A different person, a different story, different circumstances, but ultimately the same outcome.

Perhaps you keep attracting partners who aren’t emotionally available.

You might end up giving more than you receive.

Perhaps you’re afraid of being abandoned.

Perhaps you choose people who need “saving”.

Perhaps your relationships start off with a bang but struggle to become stable.

Astrology suggests that we often fail to attract the people we want.

We attract people who reflect our unconscious patterns.

The 7th House: The mirror of your relationships

The 7th house describes the way in which you relate to others.

It shows:

• What are you looking for in a partner,
• what qualities attract you,
• What do you consider a relationship to be,
• What lessons are you here to learn from the important people in your life?.

If there are planets in the 7th house, they take on particular significance.

A Saturn may indicate a fear of commitment or delays.

A Neptune can lead to idealisation.

A Pluto can bring about relationships characterised by great intensity and transformation.

But the story doesn’t end there.

The ruler of the 7th house reveals much more

The ruler of the 7th house often reveals why you are attracted to certain types of people.

In which house is it located?;

Which planets is it associated with?;

Does it form difficult or beneficial aspects?;

For example, if the ruler of the 7th house is connected to the 12th house, there may be secret relationships, unrequited love or people who are not fully available.

If it is linked to Saturn, life may be calling on you to learn patience, maturity and healthy boundaries.

Often, we don’t consciously choose the people who come into our lives.

Our unconscious mind chooses them.

Venus shows how you love

Aphrodite reveals:

• What do you find attractive,
• how do you express love,
• what you need to get out of a relationship.

A challenging Venus placement doesn’t mean you won’t find love.

However, it may indicate that you need to work through certain beliefs about your self-worth or about what you consider to be normal within a relationship.

It is often the people who hurt us the most who trigger precisely those wounds.

The Moon and your emotional needs

The Moon reveals what you need to feel secure.

Many people confuse chemistry with safety.

Others confuse passion with love.

Others regard as familiar something that is, in fact, painful.

The Moon’s position and its aspects often explain why we end up making the same choices over and over again.

The aspects of the Sun and the Moon

The relationship between the Sun and the Moon indicates the extent to which the conscious and unconscious aspects of your personality work together.

When we are experiencing an inner conflict, we often look for people who will express it outwardly.

In this way, our relationships become a mirror of what we have not yet come to terms with within ourselves.

Saturn and recurring lessons

Saturn is not a punisher.

He is the teacher of the map.

When it is connected to Venus, the Moon or the 7th house, it often brings about recurring lessons until the necessary maturity is attained.

That’s why we sometimes feel that life keeps sending us the same person over and over again, just with a different face.

A synastry reveals what the other person brings out in you

This is where the great value of synastry lies.

Synastry does not merely answer the question:

«Are we a good match?»

It also answers the question:

«Why does this man have such a big influence on me?»

Sometimes one person brings out the very best in us.

At other times, it brings our deepest wounds to the surface.

And often both happen at the same time.

A synastry reading helps you to understand:

• a person’s true intentions,
• the dynamics of the relationship,
• the compatibility points,
• the challenges,
• the prospects for development.

If you’re already in a relationship or have someone specific in mind, you can book your session here.

When the same planets are activated time and time again

There is a particularly interesting phenomenon that I often come across in analyses.

Someone has a difficult birthday aspect.

For example:

• Venus square Saturn
• Moon opposite Pluto
• Venus square Neptune

He then realises that most of his partners activate precisely these same aspects, or form more challenging aspects to these planets, through synastry.

That’s no coincidence.

The soul seeks experiences that will help it to grow.

Until the lesson has been understood, the pattern is often repeated.

When the problem is not the individual but the pattern

In this case, the solution is not necessarily to find the “right” person.

The solution is to change the inner programme that continues to attract such situations.

The following can help:

• psychotherapy,
• pattern analysis,
• the systemic representation,
• energy work,
• a deeper self-awareness.

Because when your style changes, the sort of people you attract changes too.

MASTERPLAN – Strategic Guidance & Changing Patterns

If you find that the same pattern keeps repeating itself over and over again with different people, then perhaps the answer doesn’t lie in your next relationship.

Perhaps it lies within you.

MASTERPLAN is a personal coaching session for people who want to gain a deeper understanding of what is holding them back and to move forward with greater clarity and self-confidence.

Through Systemic Representation, personal development techniques and energy work, we identify the patterns that influence your choices and outcomes.

The aim isn’t to tell you what to do.

The aim is to gain insight, see things from a new perspective and draw up a clearer plan for the future.

You can book your session here.

This service is of an advisory nature and does not constitute a form of psychotherapy, a clinical diagnosis or a therapeutic intervention. All decisions are made exclusively by the individual concerned, with absolute respect for their free will.