There are people who, from a very young age, feel an inexplicable burden. A constant inner voice that whispers: \u00abYou\u2019re not good enough\u00bb<\/em>, \u00abYou\u2019re not worth it\u00bb<\/em>, \u00abSomeone else would have done a better job\u00bb<\/em>. They may have it all \u2014 a caring relationship, a family, a good education, success \u2014 and yet the feeling of inadequacy still haunts them. If this sounds familiar to you, there is a possibility that is rarely mentioned: A \u00abreplacement child\u00bb is a child who is brought into the world after a loss<\/strong>. A child who has died, a miscarriage, an abortion, or even a child who was born but rejected or given up for adoption. The new child \u2014 without realising it \u2014 \u00abtakes the place\u00bb of the one who was missing. The substitute child grows up amidst the silence of a pain that is not his own<\/strong>, but which surrounds it on all sides. Without any explanation, it feels it must prove its worth, be \u00abgood\u00bb, \u00abperfect\u00bb, \u00abpeaceful\u00bb, \u00abworthy of love\u00bb. As an adult, the substitute child often:<\/p>\n\n\n\n This existential rift cannot be healed by reassurance or external recognition. Because the wound is not in the present. It lies in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the systemic approach, the revelation of this identification may lead to deep therapy<\/strong>. When the \u00abreplacement\u00bb child \u2018sees\u2019 that they have taken the place of someone who was missing, when the lost or silent ancestor is recognised, then the child finally takes the his own position<\/strong>. If you constantly feel that you are not good enough, that something inside you does not belong entirely to you, then this article is not just a piece of writing \u2014 it is a mirror. It may be the starting point for shedding light on the truth that your soul has been whispering silently for so many years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because you\u2019re enough. All you need to do is take your own place \u2014 not someone else\u2019s.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u03a5\u03c0\u03ac\u03c1\u03c7\u03bf\u03c5\u03bd \u03ac\u03bd\u03b8\u03c1\u03c9\u03c0\u03bf\u03b9 \u03c0\u03bf\u03c5 \u03b1\u03c0\u03cc \u03c0\u03bf\u03bb\u03cd \u03bc\u03b9\u03ba\u03c1\u03bf\u03af \u03bd\u03b9\u03ce\u03b8\u03bf\u03c5\u03bd \u03ad\u03bd\u03b1 \u03b1\u03bd\u03b5\u03be\u03ae\u03b3\u03b7\u03c4\u03bf \u03b2\u03ac\u03c1\u03bf\u03c2. \u039c\u03b9\u03b1 \u03b4\u03b9\u03b1\u03c1\u03ba\u03ae\u03c2 \u03b5\u03c3\u03c9\u03c4\u03b5\u03c1\u03b9\u03ba\u03ae \u03c6\u03c9\u03bd\u03ae \u03c0\u03bf\u03c5 \u03c8\u03b9\u03b8\u03c5\u03c1\u03af\u03b6\u03b5\u03b9: \u00ab\u03b4\u03b5\u03bd \u03b5\u03af\u03c3\u03b1\u03b9 \u03b1\u03c1\u03ba\u03b5\u03c4\u03cc\u03c2\u00bb, \u00ab\u03b4\u03b5\u03bd \u03b1\u03be\u03af\u03b6\u03b5\u03b9\u03c2\u00bb, \u00ab\u03ba\u03ac\u03c0\u03bf\u03b9\u03bf\u03c2 \u03ac\u03bb\u03bb\u03bf\u03c2 \u03b8\u03b1 \u03c4\u03b1 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Perhaps you are stand-in child<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nWhat does \u201creplacement child\u201d mean?;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Often, the family has not come to terms with their grief. Consequently, the arrival of the new child subconsciously acts as replacement<\/em>. And his soul senses it, even if no one has told him so.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe silent comparison with the \u00abinvisible\u00bb child<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The tragic thing is that he compares himself \u2014 not to someone who actually exists \u2014 but to a ideal<\/em>, with a memory or a ghost. With loss. And no one can triumph over loss. Loss is always sanctified.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHow does it manifest itself in an adult\u2019s life?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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What the systemic representation reveals<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
He no longer needs to prove his worth. He no longer lives a life \u00abto fill the void\u00bb. He can live for himself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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