Since Jupiter is now in Gemini, the words of the ‘air’ are coming and going ... and will continue for another year... Words of the air, then, are also the phrases we say to ourselves without really believing them. Positive statements, as we know, are thought to help us cope with certain difficulties or fears. Their purpose is to convince us that our assumptions or insecurities are not valid, making us see things in a more positive light.
This is true to a certain extent, because sometimes our insecurities are not realistic and are not based on real facts, but only on assumptions. So telling myself that ‘I have enough money to buy new clothes’ will help me overcome the fear of a financial loss and identify some clothes on the market that mirror my budget. I don't think one goes bankrupt easily, spending €20 on a blouse in the Western world, I suppose?
On the other hand, it's good to think about it every time: ‘where does this insecurity come from?’ Because bombarding myself with positive statements is like rejecting the part of me that fears some event that has already happened. Does the more I reject it, the more it will seek to be ‘heard’ and accepted? So if positive statements are abused, there is a danger that some parts of ourselves will be destroyed. The ones that most need to come out and heal. Below are the 3 most common mistakes that push you down this path.
You're sticking to a fake scenario
You hide problems under the carpet when you ‘stuff your mind’ with positive statements that simply cover up your insecurities. Having been emotionally abused in the past brings a natural impact on your way of thinking: pessimism. It is perfectly normal to be afraid to bond with others and there is a negative bias towards anyone who approaches you. Shouting that ‘All people are good and want what's good for me’ is more likely to make you feel like you're fooling yourself than attracting positive energy, positive events, through positive statements.
You Refuse to Embrace All Aspects of Yourself
A common mistake is the tendency to dismiss or ignore the negative aspects of yourself, trying to focus only on the positive. When positive statements are overused, they can result in tendencies to run away from reality. For example, by constantly saying «Everything will be fine,» you may ignore the real problems that need to be addressed. Instead, it is more beneficial to use realistic and concrete statements, such as «I can face my problems with courage.» This way of thinking allows you to acknowledge and accept your weaknesses, while motivating you to act with confidence.
Positive Thinking Ends Up Becoming a Defense Mechanism
A big mistake is that positive thinking can become a defense mechanism that prevents you from dealing with difficult situations and emotions. When you use positive statements to avoid problems and difficulties, you end up denying reality and avoiding necessary coping. This attitude can lead to an accumulation of anxiety and stress, as problems are not resolved, but simply remain. Healthy use of positive statements requires acknowledging challenges and honestly facing them while maintaining an optimistic and courageous attitude.
What can you do?;
Before you resort to positive statements, make sure you have cried/blown up enough to release the abused/unfortunate part of your personality. Make peace with your past and accept that at times it is normal for relevant memories that lead to negative emotions to return. After embracing the hurt and insecure part of you, seek realistic positive statements so you can believe them in 100%. For example, instead of saying ‘All people are good to me’, say ’I am able to bring people into my life willing to accept me for who I am‘.
In summary, positive statements can be extremely beneficial when used correctly, without abuse. It is important to avoid excessive positivity that leads to denial of problems. Instead, it is recommended to use realistic and concrete statements that help you face challenges with courage and confidence. In this way, positive statements can become a real tool for empowerment and growth.
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