Η systemic representation is a therapeutic and experiential method that helps the person to understand more deeply their internal or external problems - whether they are related to family, relationships, work, health, finances or other areas of life. It was created by the German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger and is based on the idea that we are all part of a larger “system” that affects us, consciously and unconsciously.
What is a “system”?;
A system is any group of people or entities that are related and interact with each other. Every system has a dynamic, an equilibrium and unwritten rules. Here are some examples of systems:
- The family (parents, children, grandparents, great-grandparents, etc.)
- The workplace (colleagues, managers, senior employees)
- A love affair
- A friendly company
- A state, a society, an organisation
According to systems theory, each member of a system influences and is influenced by the others. When there is disruption (e.g., exclusion, loss, secrets, shame), it can be passed down from generation to generation until someone “carries it” in their life - usually without knowing it.
What is Systemic Representation for?;
The systemic representation reveals the “invisible” threads that connect the individual to the system to which he or she belongs. It can bring to the surface hidden dynamics, confused roles, unconscious identifications and repressed emotions that create problems in one's life.
In short, it's like you see before you the root of an issue that affects you, when you didn't know where it was coming from. This way of seeing can profoundly change the way you think, feel and act.
How do the sessions take place?;
Imagine coming to me and saying: «I don't know why, but every time I go to move forward in a relationship, something holds me back». I, as a facilitator, will help you «see» it together, not just talk about it. I'll ask you a few basic things about you and your family (including previous relationship patterns if necessary) and then we'll re-enact the situation: if we're in a group, you'll choose people to «play» you, your mother, your father or even your own relationship; if we're individually, we'll use objects or symbols. In the session, the reps will stand in the space and, not knowing anything about your story, will begin to feel and react as if they were the people they represent - as I tune into your ‘system’, the more the feelings will ’flow’ through the reps. In the case of 1-1 individual sessions, I am tuning the field and connecting with each representative each time, so yes, I will feel everything that flows through the system! This will show us the hidden dynamics that are holding you back. In the end, through movements, phrases and «placements», we will find a path to balance. Very ‘layman's terms” it's like opening the system, reprogramming it and ‘shutting it down’, allowing it to reset properly over time. The result can be a sense of relief, greater clarity or even the beginning of a change that you will see evolve in your daily life over time.
Therefore the technique always works with a clear request, what you want to achieve! Even if it is not clear 100%, in the session we will clarify it together, through my introductory questions that will guide you appropriately.
There are two main ways:
1. Group session
The person concerned (the so-called “client” or “applicant”) raises a matter of concern without having to explain all the details. The facilitator asks the client to choose people from the group to “represent” family members or aspects of the issue (e.g. himself, father, mother, fear, etc.). The re-enactors stand in the room and feel without “role-playing”. Paradoxically, through this process a truth emerges that would hardly come out only through discussion.
The coordinator observes the positions, feelings and movements of the reps and helps the system to reach a Balance or “solution”, if possible.
2. Individual session
It is done without a team. The facilitator can use objects (e.g. figures, cushions, tabs) or the client himself to represent members of the system. The process is also deep, although the physical presence of other people is missing. In my technique it is done in symbolism on an astrological chart - so we get even more information on the problem we wish to solve, and this technique allows the coordination of the distance sessions to work without barriers. The sessions are offered as part of a package deal until the first week of September 2025, and you will be able to book your own session separately from then on. For more contact info@astrina.gr.
Example of a session
One man comes to the session because, he says, cannot be committed to its relations. The moderator asks him a few questions about his family and invites him to choose proxies for himself, his mother and father. The proxies are placed in the room, and almost immediately it is seen that the “man” is looking at the “mother” and not his “partner”, while the “father” is standing far away.
Through the movements and guidance, the man begins to realize that he is unconsciously identified with his mother's problems and he's not “allowed” to be with someone else. As this dynamic is acknowledged and a balance is restored (with phrases like «Mom, I'm the little one and you're the big one, hold your own burdens»), the man feels relief, tears come to his eyes and an inner change begins.
When does one see a result?;
For some, change is direct and almost magical. They immediately feel lighter, calmer or clearer. Others gradually notice that something has changed in the way they relate to those around them, making decisions more easily or solving something that has been bothering them for a long time.
It is not a “miracle”, but an internal movement - a new look at the issue that leads to a new attitude and ultimately a new reality.
Reality vs Representation
It is important to understand that the systemic representation is not a play and we do not pretend. The re-enactors know nothing about the subject, but they instinctively feel emotions, desires or even physical sensations. This is the power of the “field”, as it is called - a form of collective knowledge that we can all touch.
The representation does not replace reality, but the reveals in depth. Sometimes we see things that we didn't know existed or that our own parents may not have realized.
When is systemic representation useful?;
The method can help with many issues, such as:
- Ongoing problems in relationships (family, couples, friends)
- Professional blockages or economic stagnation
- Repeated patterns (rejections, accidents, addictions)
- Health issues (especially when not medically explained)
- Adoptions, losses, interruptions of pregnancy
- Feeling of «not belonging», guilt, loneliness
Conclusion
Η systemic representation is not magic, but a tool for self-knowledge. It helps us to see behind the obvious, to free ourselves from burdens that do not belong to us, and to restore love, balance and flow to our lives.
If you have ever felt that you are “carrying something that is not yours”, that you keep going around in circles on the same mistakes, or that you want a deeper understanding of your relationships, then maybe systemic representation is for you.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) about Systemic Representation
1. Do I need to tell my whole story to get the session?;
No. The facilitator usually only asks for basic information about the subject and any significant events in the family (e.g., losses, separations, adoptions). The “field” will reveal the rest.
2. Do I have to believe in something specific?;
No. The method is not based on religious or spiritual beliefs. It only requires an open mind and curiosity.
3. Is it dangerous?;
The process can bring out strong emotions, but an experienced facilitator knows how to handle them safely and respectfully.
4. Can I only participate as a representative?;
Yes. Even if you don't bring your own issue, participating as a representative can give you personal realizations.
5. How many sessions are needed?;
There is no specific number. A representation can bring about significant change on its own, but some people choose to come back for different issues.
How to choose a moderator? What to look out for?;
Choosing a moderator is crucial to the quality and safety of your experience. Before you decide:
- Check the training
He asked where and with whom he trained. Ideally, she should have completed a certified systems representation program and be continuing trainings. - See the experience
How many years have you been practicing the method? Does he have experience with issues like yours? Has he worked with different groups of people?; - Style and approach
Some moderators are more directive, others more discreet. If you can, attend a session as a spectator or facilitator to see if their style suits you. - Safety and ethics
A good facilitator creates a safe environment, does not force the participant to reveal more than he or she wants to and maintains confidentiality. - Intuition
Feel the energy of man. If you don't feel comfortable or there is a lack of trust, he may not be the right person for you.
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